Do you recall the time you felt lousy the second you got out of bed? Was it just this morning?
You’re healthy, you’ve had a good night’s sleep but you still feel out of sorts when you wake up in the morning. How do you fix this? After all, the way you feel in the morning has a big influence on how you feel throughout the day.
According to Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) Trainer and Timeline Therapy Master Practitioner, Sheila Singam, whether you wake up feeling good or lousy is all up to you. “It’s your choice,” says Sheila. In other words, the secret to feeling happy lies within you. Here are a few ideas to help you wake up feeling happy every day — the NLP way!
Rise and Shine
One of the most powerful NLP tools to feeling good every single morning is a simple mental exercise known as submodalities change work. “It is one of the many ‘magic-like’ processes in NLP that create transformational changes because new meanings emerge from the use of submodalities,” explains Sheila. Here’s how you can put this method to work:
1. Change The Picture
When you wake up with a negative feeling, focus on the mental picture that comes with it. Then ask yourself these questions:
- Is it black and white or colour?
- Is it still or moving?
- Is it dim or bright?
- Is it near or far?
Now, let’s say your picture is grey, still, dim and near.
“To change the feeling, you have to try changing the picture. Imagine yourself holding a remote control and ‘colouring’ the picture in your mind with beautiful, vibrant colours,” advises Sheila. “Then, brighten the picture by imagining the sun shining brightly and unfreeze the frame to make it move. You will notice that your feeling instantly becomes more positive!”
2. Let’s add some groove
If the picture in your mind is silent, use your imaginary remote control to add some upbeat or cheerful background music.
“If imagining a beat is difficult, you can always switch on the stereo or radio and listen to your favourite upbeat song early in the morning,” says Sheila. She suggests keeping the radio nearby so that you can turn on your favourite tunes the moment you wake up.
3. Switch on positive self-talk
When you wake up and your inner voice starts saying negative things in your head, immediately put it on mute. Use your imaginary remote control again to visualise that you have clicked the ‘mute’ button. Then say something positive to yourself like, “I can do it! I am smart and capable.”
“Many of us have an internal voice that often runs on and on as a critical monologue,” explains Sheila. “So, when you put your negative inner voice on mute and replace it with positive thoughts you are essentially programming your mind with positive self-talk.”
4. Create a circle of cheerfulness
Before you settle in for the night, create a circle of cheerfulness by the side of your bed. You can do this by following these steps:
i. In your mind, draw a circle around the area where you would normally step in as soon as you get out of bed in the morning.
ii. Now, think of a time when you felt really happy, joyful or cheerful and recall that feeling until it’s flowing through your body. At the point when the feeling becomes most intense, step into the circle.
iii. Then, imagine that you are peeling off that strong positive feeling, like taking off a garment, and let it float down into the circle.
iv. Step out of the circle, leaving that feeling of joy and happiness in it.
v. Repeat steps ii to iv several times, to ensure that the area next to your bed is filled with positive emotions.
5. Give Thanks
The minute you wake up, give thanks to God or whatever spiritual power you believe in.
“Make a habit of doing this every morning even though you don’t particularly feel grateful. Find 10 things to be thankful about every morning before the negative feelings set in,” says Sheila. “You can start by being thankful for the roof over your head, the job that provides you with money, your car, your family… the list goes on.”
NLP has been used by countless people, around the world, to feel more positive, energised and cheerful. So if you’ve never tried these methods before, why not give it a shot? You might be pleasantly surprised at how much better you feel and what you can achieve!
For more information on Sheila Singam’s NLP coaching and training programmes please email firstname.lastname@example.org, call 012 2035 362 or visit www.human-equation.com
What is Neuro-Linguistic Programming?
A key definition of NLP was coined by Richard Bandler, the co-creator of NLP. Bandler said that NLP is a methodology that leaves behind a trail of techniques. It is the study of excellence, of how to utilise our internal programmes to create change.
Sheila explains further: “Just like a computer system that needs programmes to run smoothly, we need programmes too. NLP helps you gain personal power by guiding you to identify the states, beliefs and emotions that are limiting and disempowering. It gives you the tools to overcome these limitations and to enhance learning, performance and growth.”