By Edeline Anne Goh
Are you losing that ‘spark’ in bed?
Your libido or sex drive can begin the minute you hit puberty. However various factors such as stress, medical conditions, drugs and ageing can create adverse effects causing your sex drive to decline. In some relationships, this could stir up unnecessary misunderstandings and conflicts.
The truth is, a low sex drive is really much more common than you might think. It tends to be more prevalent among older people and can be experienced by both men and women. If you’re not planning on turning to drugs or traditional medicine just yet, try these 8 natural ways to boost your libido.
#1 Relaxation Exercises
Whether it’s related to work, family or personal problems, any form of stress can cause a huge decline in your sex drive. Try relaxation techniques such as controlled breathing, meditation, yoga or even spending some quality alone time doing the things you love. If time is scarce, allocate just a few minutes each night for some downtime and watch how your mood changes when you settle into bed and cuddle up with your partner. Feeling relaxed not only boosts your libido, it helps you get a good night’s sleep too!
#2 Gentle strokes
Who’s going to say no to a soothing massage from a significant other? A massage kills two birds with one stone – it will relax you and get you aroused at the same time. You and your partner could take turns massaging each other to stimulate those intimate feelings, enhancing your mutual desire for one another. To further increase that romantic mood, light a few aromatherapy candles, use some essential oils for your massage and watch the magic unfold.
#3 Feast On Aphrodisiacs
An aphrodisiac is essentially a substance that stimulates sexual desire. The name is derived from the Greek goddess, Aphrodite — the goddess of sexuality and love. Foods such as fresh oysters, bananas, figs and chocolate rank high on the list of effective aphrodisiacs so go ahead and indulge in them if you’re keen to jumpstart your sex drive.
#4 Exercise For Strength
As you grow older you may no longer remain the “Superman” or “Superwoman” you always thought you were. So keep your stamina high and muscles strong with regular exercise. This helps with longer lasting sex, ensuring that you and your partner experience maximum pleasure. After all, when it comes to sex, endurance can never be overrated and not getting the job done isn’t an option!
#5 Discard That Cigarette
We all know that smoking damages your lungs, disrupts the oxygen supply to your brain and greatly reduces your sex drive. So the next time you feel like lighting up that cigarette, think about how it negatively affects your overall health and how it could end up spoiling your fun in the bedroom!
#6 Bring Back The Excitement
Think back to when you were younger. When you did ‘it’ at unusual places, wasn’t it an absolutely thrilling experience? Yes, excitement is definitely a must when it comes to sex as boredom can result in a low sex drive. As long as you ensure that you and your partner are safe (and that neither of you break any laws!) go for something different to shake things up. Experimenting with interesting sex positions and creative foreplay will certainly help bring the spark back to your love life.
# 7 Feel Good About Yourself
Low self-esteem and confidence can also cause a loss of libido. Feeling blue, or that you’re not good enough will make you think twice about sex. So keep your chin high and you’ll be surprised with how much fun sex can be. If you realise that it’s your partner who needs some help in the confidence department, make an extra effort to be supportive and you’ll both be better for it.
#8 Turn Off Distractions
Turn that TV off when you’re ready to have a little fun in the bedroom. Loud noises or flashes of light can easily distract you and your partner from getting in ‘the mood’. Keep the focus on the two of you and not the TV. After all, it’s going to cause all sorts of trouble if either one of you caught the other one watching TV while having sex!